Do you decide that you’re going to do things but you can’t?

Or maybe you have flashbacks, or are scared everytime something happens.  You don’t know why.

Maybe your childhood was confusing, you were often frightened or worried about what might happen next.  Your family don’t understand why you can’t forget about it and move on, but you can’t.

Or something has happened to you in a previous relationship.  This might keep you awake you at night, and you might ask yourself “Why me?”

I can help.  This is what I do.

I just wanted to say thank you so much for all your help. You have helped me come to terms with some horrific events in my life and helped me to see that i was not to blame.

Although i only saw you for a short period of time, you have made such difference to my life. I am no longer walking under a grey cloud every day but i am starting to see the blue sky again. With your help i have learnt to let go of the past and move forward with my life.

Sometimes we have a longing to talk and talk about the difficult things that have happened to us.  And sometimes talking about those difficult things retrumatises us.  We will work to get the balance right.  It’s important to know that as far as trauma goes: – Recovering is Not Remembering.  There are different techniques and ways of experiencing what we might not understand.

I work with  different types of trauma.  Trauma that happened when you were a child.  One or both of your parents might have been frightened, or frightening.  One, or both might have died, or left because of a divorce.

I also work with trauma that happens because of relationships.  This could be relationships with your family or as a result of a romantic relationship.   Family estrangement or being being shamed or blamed for everything that goes wrong in your family can feel like you have drunk poison.  Confusing, controlling or abusive behaviour in a sexual relationship can leave a feeling and a pain in your body, in your heart and in your head that you struggle to describe.

“Traumatised people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies:   The past is alive in teh form of gnawing interior discomfort.  Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes, they often become expert at ignoring their gut feelings and in numbing awareness of what is played out inside.  They learn to hide from their selves.”  Bessel A. van der Kolk