It is important that you feel comfortable with any therapist you work with, so thanks for taking the time to read a bit more about me.
I am a member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), am on the BACP Register and hold the BACP Certificate of Proficiency. I work within the BACP Ethical Framework for Good Practice in Counselling and Psycotherapy, and am fully insured with Professional Liability Insurance.
Several years ago, when my daughter was very young, I was widowed. Therefore, I have a special interest in the areas of grief, loss and change. But grief is not just about death. Grief can occur with the end of a relationship; a loss or change of job or home; children leaving home; or the arrival of a baby. Or you may be a couple whose relationship is struggling.
It may feel that even though you still talk about everyday things – what’s on the telly, who’s doing the dishes etc. you never really talk, and you feel so alone. Or one of you may have had an affair, or be seriously tempted to have an affair, and the feelings brought about by that are terrible. All of these, and many other life events can cause a change of identity and status that can bring feelings that are difficult to manage.
In our society, there is a pressure to push our grief aside – to “get on with it”. Yet, ultimately these feelings will surface elsewhere. I believe strongly that mind, body and spirit are linked – we may become ill because of the ‘dis-ease’ which we feel at the things that have happened to us.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
I am also interested in trauma and what it does to our body and the way we behave; in women who are in abusive relationships; and in the difficulties we have in establishing and maintaining relationships.
These are all things that we may think that we have to live with or that it’s just the way things are.
This is not true.
I can help you if you are willing to take that first step and to continue taking little baby steps. Eventually, you may turn around and see how far you’ve come!
Where do I work?
I work from a peaceful and calm room with large, comfortable sofas for you to sit on, with a hot or cold drink ready for you on arrival if you wish.
I also spent eight months training in Canada on how to counsel clients online, using video, chat and email. I use Zoom and have a VPN to ensure that the sessions are safe.
Working online is different but no less effective than working in person. In fact, some studies have suggested that it may be more effective. This is for many reasons: because people are generally in their own home when they have therapy, they tend to be more relaxed; because people aren’t talking face to face then they tend to find it easier to disclose things that they may not do face to face. Ever shared something on the internet that you wouldn’t necessarily have said in person? This phenomenon has been noticed so many times in the research that there is now a term for it: the Online Disinhibition Effect. People can become much more open and disinhibited when we talk online, which can only be a good thing for therapy!
Work experience and training
In the past, I have worked supporting people in various agencies for several years; from the Probation Service to Social Services, and within the last few years have worked as a Counsellor for Age Concern, Connexions and Relate.
I have counselled people aged 5 to 86, spanning a wide range of issues and situations.
However, experience has taught me that no two people are alike so I work differently with everyone. In this way your sessions are always tailored to you.
My therapy training and qualifications
- An Introduction to Working Online with Couples – Ian Wallace
- Level II CyberCounselling – TherapyOnline.CA
- Level I CyberCounselling – TherapyOnline.CA
- Working with Shame – Positive Outcomes for Dissociative Survivors
- Mental Health & The Body: Treating Trauma – Positive Outcomes for Dissociative Survivors
- Working with Anger Management
- Out of this World – An Examination of Suicide & Suicidal Thinking – Antonia Murphy & Pat Bryant
- Understanding Personality Disorders & Traits for Therapy & Coaching Work – ITC Therapy
- Trauma, Dissociation and Recovery: Healing the Brain. Positive Outcomes for Dissociative Survivors
- Treating Intrusive Thoughts and The Inner Critical Voice – Mind Body Breakthrough
- 8 week course in Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) -Revision-u-Counselling
- Counselling Clients with Aspergers – Praxis
- Counselling Children – The Relate Institute and The Institute of Child Mental Health
- Diploma in Hypnotherapy and Counselling Skills (with Distinction) – Chrysalis
- MA Humanistic Counselling Practice (with Distinction) – University of Nottingham
- Working with anger in therapy
- The Impact of Domestic Violence on Women and Children
- Counselling & Psychotherapy Central Awarding Body (CPCAB) Level 3 in Counselling Studies
- CPCAB Level 2 in Counselling Skills